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I don’t know if this matches the drunk-in-the-bathroom thing, but I was definitely at my most un-glamorous when proposed to!   I was at work on a rainy Monday (and it almost NEVER rains in Southern Colorado), all grungy in my hospital scrubs, when Martin called and said he’d like to bring me lunch (not unusual for him), and what did I want?  I asked him to bring me a burrito. So he shows up with this brown paper bag, and we sat down in the cafe to eat.  I opened the bag and found a burrito … and a perfect, gorgeous diamond ring!!!  Of course I started bawling all over the place.  People who witnessed all this were stopping me in the halls for weeks congratulating us and asking when the big day was. We had been discussing marriage in general terms for a while and he said he wanted to come up with a proposal that would take me totally by surprise. I’d say he succeeded brilliantly! Christine P.S.  About 5 minutes into my sobfest he asked, "So are you gonna eat your burrito?"  I said, "How can I even THINK about eating right now?"  So he ate it.  Men … sigh.

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Ooh.  Well, my aunt and former uncle (they’re divorced now) had one of those proposals.   They were watching TV, and he asked her to get him a beer from the fridge.  This ended up turning into a minor argument about why she should do it, and why he couldn’t do it, and finally she got the damn beer.  When she opened the fridge, the ring was sitting on top of the foremost can of beer. kate.  | Address is spamblocked – watch where you send replies! – ICQ# 8375030 |  | Website redone!  /personal /comics /faqs /sorority /wedding /internet |  | Countdown to the wedding: http://www.enteract.com/~katew/wedcount.htm |

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Cherise, you and Jill are not the only ones….except ours was slightly different (and there wasn’t any sex involved).

Who said anything about sex being involved? Well, the first time James proposed, we were in Burgh le Marsh, England, spending the night in a converted windmill B&B.  We were in the bed asleep.  I woke up when he woke up during the middle of the night.  He said he had had a nightmare, and it had upset him some.  (It was concerning me seeing someone else.)

LOL! One nightmare I had early on in our relationship was of him *kissing* someone else right in front of me (I recall this dream very vividly). I was so upset with him the next day. He finally asked why I was being moody…he laughed really hard when I told him my dream. So whenever I was a bit grumpy, he’d ask "Ok, what did I do in your dream *this* time?"  Around the time of the Winter Olympics this year I had a similar dream – he was a "couple" with that Russian ice skater (the one whose skating husband partner died last year) and I was watching them together skiing and being lovey-dovey. He liked that dream. His response when I told him "Cool. She’s gorgeous!" So, then for awhile he’d say -"Any more dreams of me with gorgeous women?" I got him back though – I had a dream last night where er-forget his name- an English actor common on BBC movies (was in Nostromo, Pride & Prejudice, and The English Patient) – anyway, he kept making passes at me…but I was fending him off and telling him I was devoted to my other beloved Englishman….all this in the pub my fiance owned (in the dream) which only allowed patrons who would religiously watch soccer matches.   He had mixed feelings about that dream – a bit jealous of the man involved but glad I was remaining devoted. No wonder I never feel rested in the morning! Cherise Ps – great story…he probably said he didn’t hear your answer because he wanted you to say it again just to be sure —

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P.S.  About 5 minutes into my sobfest he asked, "So are you gonna eat your burrito?"  I said, "How can I even THINK about eating right now?"  So he ate it.  Men … sigh.

That’s so cute!!! Adrienne (& Larry 9/99) Due to the excessive volume of spam that is not filtered by my mail program, I have all mail blocked on this account.  To send me private e-mail, change the name to E x q q s M i (excuse me!)

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How about during the middle of "Home Improvement"??? And that was *after* he decided not to ask me on Valentine’s Day! danielle – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I know, I know!  Here my girlfriend gets to tell the romantic story of the Empire State Building proposal, and my husband proposed to me drunk in the bathroom.  IS there a LESS glamorous story?  No, really, **is there?**  I’d sure like to hear it! koa Madison, AL

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I guess our proposal qualifies as an un-glamorous proposal, but I guess I kind of like the spontaneous approach.   After spending a sleepless night before attending the wedding of one of Paul’s friends imagining what it would be like to be engaged to Paul and what the proposal would be like, I couldn’t stand waiting any longer (I’m not a very patient person).  So while taking a walk on the golf course during his friend’s wedding reception, I blurted out a proposal to him.  His response was "oh no, I wanted to do that."  He said he was waiting until he could get a ring.  He got over the shock quickly, accepted, and proposed right back to me.  I’m glad I didn’t have to wait for a ring because on a grad student stipend, this takes quite a long time.  We both got each other engagement rings about 6 months later. Yea! Kim to reply remove the _nospam – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Well–Johnny proposed to me in the automotive section of Sam’s Wholesale Club.  He just turned to me and said how long would it take to plan a wedding?  After five years of dating, I was stunned and said whose.  He said well ours of course.   My instant reply–not long at all. Maggie J.Lawrence Photography Auburn, AL LMAO – okay, now I’m feeling a bit better; maybe you and I and Lia should form some sort of goofy engagement support group!  Ahhh….in any event, it sure beats some of my nightmare dating stories! N. I know, I know!  Here my girlfriend gets to tell the romantic story of the Empire State Building proposal, and my husband proposed to me drunk in the bathroom.  IS there a LESS glamorous story?  No, really, **is there?**  I’d sure like to hear it!

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heehehe that happend to my girlfriend who got married a couple years ago there was a house party going on and her boyfriend at the time said sue we need more beer go get some out of the fridge.. they had an extra fridge in the backyard for house partys anyways she said no im busy well words were said and she ended of doing it….then came back out and said out loud OK WHO WAS THE MORON WHO LEEFT THE DIAMOND RING IN A LEATER CASE IN THE FRIDGE?…. well we all knew about what he was gonna do…she was so embarresed because everyone said outloud  ARE YOU SAYING YES OR NO? after we all said that she past out in shock heheh:) Kathlieen who got permisson by her moh to tell her story:) — SURGEON GENERAL’S WARNING:  A bride to be is just like pms when she is stressed. You better run and hide till the wedding is done and over with …. : Ooh.  Well, my aunt and former uncle (they’re divorced now) had one of : those proposals.   : : They were watching TV, and he asked her to get him a beer from the : fridge.  This ended up turning into a minor argument about why she : should do it, and why he couldn’t do it, and finally she got the damn : beer.  When she opened the fridge, the ring was sitting on top of the : foremost can of beer. : : : kate. : | :  | Address is spamblocked – watch where you send replies! – ICQ# 8375030 | :  | Website redone!  /personal /comics /faqs /sorority /wedding /internet | :  | Countdown to the wedding: http://www.enteract.com/~katew/wedcount.htm | :

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I know, I know!  Here my girlfriend gets to tell the romantic story of the Empire State Building proposal, and my husband proposed to me drunk in the bathroom.  IS there a LESS glamorous story?  No, really, **is there?**  I’d sure like to hear it!

This story can’t compete in the glamorous category, but it is hardly romantic at all. I may not have the details right, but the general story is there. A friend of mine was living with her boyfriend, and they got into an argument about where the relationship was going, if anywhere. He stormed out of the apartment, mad, and didn’t come back for a few hours. It turns out he went to the library and read some books that talk about love. So he gets back, she’s still ticked off at him because he stormed out of a fight. She asks where he’s been, he says he’s been thinking and… "will you marry me?" She laughs it off. The next day the two of them were driving somewhere. The think about driving is that you can’t make eye contact. He tells her, "You know what I said last night; I meant it." She says, "Oh." He asks, "So how about it? Will you marry me?" She replies with something like, "Oh, okay, yes." They did some ring shopping together, but he wanted to buy the actual ring himself.  One day she is at her desk studying. He gets back from an outing with a friend, walks up to her desk, casually tosses the ring box on the desk, and says, "Here it is. I have to go, <friend in the car is waiting." And he leaves. (When she told this story recently, he defended himself with, "Well, you knew I was going to get it! It’s not like it was a surprise or anything.") LOL! Since she still wanted to marry him after all that, there must be something there, right? Jeanne Petrangelo

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Ooh.  Well, my aunt and former uncle (they’re divorced now) had one of those proposals. They were watching TV, and he asked her to get him a beer from the fridge.  This ended up turning into a minor argument about why she should do it, and why he couldn’t do it, and finally she got the damn beer.  When she opened the fridge, the ring was sitting on top of the foremost can of beer. kate.  | Address is spamblocked – watch where you send replies! – ICQ# 8375030 |  | Website redone!  /personal /comics /faqs /sorority /wedding /internet |  | Countdown to the wedding: http://www.enteract.com/~katew/wedcount.htm |

He,he,he…I’m so stubborn, this is something that would happen to me! Joy

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I just started reading this thread – some funny stuff here. I suppose you would say Kevin’s proposal was pretty unglamorous – in as much as I never really got an official proposal. I was in Alaska in the summer of 94, living in a little backwoods cabin with no electricity and no water (I had a phone line that I had "pirated" from the main house).  One night Kevin and I were talking on the phone and he happened to mention that he had taken his Aunt on a tour of one of the antebellum mansions in Baton Rouge.  He said "Aunt Sherri says we ought to have the ceremony at Oak Alley when we get married."  <long pause  "Um… yeah." So that was my proposal! <g Karen — Karen Simmons, Photographer       The DK Gallery   http://www.thedkgallery.com Atlanta, GA    404.233.1230

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Beat this-My husband proposed to me on the phone. I was actually afraid he was going to propose on the computer so I was relieved. He was in Georgia at the time, doing 9 months of active duty for the Army, it was month 4. Absence does make the heart grow fonder! Lee Etta, married 5/26/98

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it’s stories like this which make me less likely than ever to tell the real story behind my own engagement.. I know, I know!  Here my girlfriend gets to tell the romantic story of the Empire State Building proposal, and my husband proposed to me drunk in the bathroom.  IS there a LESS glamorous story?  No, really, **is there?**  I’d sure like to hear it! koa Madison, AL

Haha!  My then-boyfriend (and I) used to HATE to hear those romantic, inventive, creative proposal stories, because they seemed to "raise the bar" that much higher.  Mark is a shy, private person, and not into showmanship, so I thought he might get cowed into scrapping the whole idea.  So in the months before, we sort of agreed that (a) it wouldn’t be a wildly creative public proposal and (b) he wasn’t going to buy the ring first, probably.  These sorts of pre-proposal negotiations took the romantic edge off. As it happened, he did an okay job of making it romantic, although he did bail out on the "on one knee" part at the last minute because he was too embarrassed. Anyhoo, I feel bad for the less-showy or less-inventive future proposers who have to hear all these stories and feel lame!  Drunk in the bathroom has a sort of passionate air about it, though….. sorta….. –KZ — * * I have a wedding page with a collection of ideas for small weddings, * theme weddings, and destination weddings : * * http://www.umich.edu/~kzaruba/wedding.html *

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Hell????? As in North Carolina? As in Chapel Hill?????   cool…… as you can tell from my account, I’m here in CH too! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Quoth koa: I know, I know!  Here my girlfriend gets to tell the romantic story of the Empire State Building proposal, and my husband proposed to me drunk in the bathroom.  IS there a LESS glamorous story?  No, really, **is there?**  I’d sure like to hear it! Hmmm… mine came rather unexpectedly one Saturday morning as I was trying not to wake up. "Are you awake?" "Yes." "Can I ask you a question?" My immediate reaction was: he’d better not be about to do what I think he’s about to do… "Yes." "Will you marry me?" Proceed to me freaking out (we’d been discussing it in the general probably-some-day sense, but definitely *not* in the hey-let’s-do-this sense). My sister, OTOH, had the drunken proposal, followed by cops hassling them for being drunk in public (on a college campus.. Shock.). He gave her the ring a couple of weeks later in a bar called Hell, after I’d flown into town with our great-aunt’s ring in the watch pocket of my jeans (hey, it couldn’t fall out!). But they have great stories to tell their kids…

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Well–Johnny proposed to me in the automotive section of Sam’s Wholesale Club.  He just turned to me and said how long would it take to plan a wedding?  After five years of dating, I was stunned and said whose.  He said well ours of course.   My instant reply–not long at all. Maggie J.Lawrence Photography Auburn, AL – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – LMAO – okay, now I’m feeling a bit better; maybe you and I and Lia should form some sort of goofy engagement support group!  Ahhh….in any event, it sure beats some of my nightmare dating stories! N. I know, I know!  Here my girlfriend gets to tell the romantic story of the Empire State Building proposal, and my husband proposed to me drunk in the bathroom.  IS there a LESS glamorous story?  No, really, **is there?**  I’d sure like to hear it!

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*lmao* I really thought I was one of the few people in this world who had an unromantic proposal.  We were just laying in bed, started talking about weddings for some odd reason, then decided mutually that we would like to be married to each other.  THen he asked me.  We did the ring shopping together, and we picked it up together.  IT is nice to hear that others had a situation like mine  Btw since we didnt have a great proposal story we announced it to the f amily in a way that would be memorable. Kate

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Quoth koa: I know, I know!  Here my girlfriend gets to tell the romantic story of the Empire State Building proposal, and my husband proposed to me drunk in the bathroom.  IS there a LESS glamorous story?  No, really, **is there?**  I’d sure like to hear it!

Hmmm… mine came rather unexpectedly one Saturday morning as I was trying not to wake up. "Are you awake?" "Yes." "Can I ask you a question?" My immediate reaction was: he’d better not be about to do what I think he’s about to do… "Yes." "Will you marry me?" Proceed to me freaking out (we’d been discussing it in the general probably-some-day sense, but definitely *not* in the hey-let’s-do-this sense). My sister, OTOH, had the drunken proposal, followed by cops hassling them for being drunk in public (on a college campus. Shock.). He gave her the ring a couple of weeks later in a bar called Hell, after I’d flown into town with our great-aunt’s ring in the watch pocket of my jeans (hey, it couldn’t fall out!). But they have great stories to tell their kids…

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: Well–Johnny proposed to me in the automotive section of Sam’s Wholesale : Club.  He just turned to me and said how long would it take to plan a : wedding?  After five years of dating, I was stunned and said whose.  He : said well ours of course.   My instant reply–not long at all.         My beloved said that the desire to propose struck him at odd times…like while we were at the grocery store, or wandering around Home Depot looking for a replacement faucet for the kitchen.  At it stands, he proposed during a rather…um…intimate moment.  Makes it sort of difficult when people ask us how he proposed, since the answer "While making mad, passionate love" isn’t really what they want to hear! (The second proposal is what we usually tell people about…after he picked up the ring (which took around eight weeks to get after the first proposal), he opened the box, got down on one knee, and said "I love you, I can’t live without you, please marry me."  And then I cried.)

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – : Well–Johnny proposed to me in the automotive section of Sam’s Wholesale : Club.  He just turned to me and said how long would it take to plan a : wedding?  After five years of dating, I was stunned and said whose.  He : said well ours of course.   My instant reply–not long at all.         My beloved said that the desire to propose struck him at odd times…like while we were at the grocery store, or wandering around Home Depot looking for a replacement faucet for the kitchen.  At it stands, he proposed during a rather…um…intimate moment.  Makes it sort of difficult when people ask us how he proposed, since the answer "While making mad, passionate love" isn’t really what they want to hear! (The second proposal is what we usually tell people about…after he picked up the ring (which took around eight weeks to get after the first proposal), he opened the box, got down on one knee, and said "I love you, I can’t live without you, please marry me."  And then I cried.)

Hehe – it’s so nice to hear we’re not the only ones. My dear Steven had said he thought of proposing when we were in Italy in ‘96, however, despite some very romantic days, we were there for a conference and he decided it was way too nerdy to propose while we were "conferencing" and we’d never live it down. Then he thought he might do it whilst visiting me in Kenya a few months later, alas, he didn’t finish his dissertation in time and couldn’t come to visit. Then Christmas came and it just wasn’t the right time…a few weeks later he comes to visit me back in the US. We were lying in bed one morning – stealing a few extra minutes of sleep before we had to drive to NYC to pick up a new student from China at the airport. And he says just as I’m about to head for the shower "Will you marry me?" Mad rush to say yes – celebrate – then go to the airport (how anticlimatic!). He wanted to do a "real" proposal with the ring the following weekend at a lovely Inn in VT (just as he learned he had to leave a week early for Thailand). It was indeed very romantic – and that’s the story I tell to everyone *else*, but I had an awful flu and was feeling lousy. Still, we celebrated Cherise —

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Let me bore (or excite) you with a story I just found out about.  My girlfriend, TL, from grad school has been dating a very nice guy for about 1-1/2 years.  I like him a lot.  She’s been very impatient lately about wanting to get engaged.  They’ve been ring shopping together and then he sorta "cooled his jets" on the whole thing.  TL was getting really anxious and emailing me an even drove the 4 hrs last weekend to lament that he hadn’t given her a ring yet and wouldn’t really talk about it lately.  I told her to calm down, things would fall into place as the should–not necessarily as she’d like them to fall. Well, TL has been in NYC for a convention or some marketing thing this week for her company and she begged her boyfriend to fly up this afternoon and spend the weekend there.  He’s had this ticket that was bought and paid for but didn’t get to use and needed to use it before the end of the year, anyway, so why not go to NYC?  He refused and said things to the effect of, "I’m not taking off work early just to spend a day and a half in NYC.  Are you crazy?" So I get home from work today (I’m getting to the good part here) and TL left a message a few minutes ago saying that it was all a **big scam**. . . all the people from work were in on it.  She was supposed to meet her boss and a few co-workers at the top of the Empire State Building today at lunch.  She was late, as usual, and when she finally got there, all her co-workers were there, the boyfriend was there, and so were a dozen roses and the antique diamond ring they’d looked at a month or so ago!  She was so happy in the message and I even cried a little tear for her, as I was happy, too.  "An Affair to Remember" is one of our favorite movies and I thought the boyfriend was so sweet to remember that and give HER something truly special to tell their kids one day. WHAT A GREAT STORY!  Thanks for letting me share with ya! koa Madison, AL

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ROFL – it’s stories like this which make me less likely than ever to tell the real story behind my own engagement…he popped the question as we were driving at 65 miles an hour (lunkhead!), although he denies this to all  who ask and instead tells the story of how he WANTED to propose on a horse-drawn carriage ride through Central Park. Congrats to your friend – what a fabulous- and all-true! – story she can tell her children! N. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Let me bore (or excite) you with a story I just found out about.  My girlfriend, TL, from grad school has been dating a very nice guy for about 1-1/2 years.  I like him a lot.  She’s been very impatient lately about wanting to get engaged.  They’ve been ring shopping together and then he sorta "cooled his jets" on the whole thing.  TL was getting really anxious and emailing me an even drove the 4 hrs last weekend to lament that he hadn’t given her a ring yet and wouldn’t really talk about it lately.  I told her to calm down, things would fall into place as the should–not necessarily as she’d like them to fall. Well, TL has been in NYC for a convention or some marketing thing this week for her company and she begged her boyfriend to fly up this afternoon and spend the weekend there.  He’s had this ticket that was bought and paid for but didn’t get to use and needed to use it before the end of the year, anyway, so why not go to NYC?  He refused and said things to the effect of, "I’m not taking off work early just to spend a day and a half in NYC.  Are you crazy?" So I get home from work today (I’m getting to the good part here) and TL left a message a few minutes ago saying that it was all a **big scam**. . . all the people from work were in on it.  She was supposed to meet her boss and a few co-workers at the top of the Empire State Building today at lunch.  She was late, as usual, and when she finally got there, all her co-workers were there, the boyfriend was there, and so were a dozen roses and the antique diamond ring they’d looked at a month or so ago!  She was so happy in the message and I even cried a little tear for her, as I was happy, too.  "An Affair to Remember" is one of our favorite movies and I thought the boyfriend was so sweet to remember that and give HER something truly special to tell their kids one day. WHAT A GREAT STORY!  Thanks for letting me share with ya!

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can anyone send me this original story or repost it? i missed it! waaaaa thanks amy <<Congrats to your friend – what a fabulous- and all-true! – story she can tell her children!

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it’s stories like this which make me less likely than ever to tell the real story behind my own engagement..

Tell me about it… my fianc