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My daughter would like to use sealing wax (gold) on her invitation envelopes.  Has anyone here ever done it?  Does it seem like a good idea? If so, would you use it on the inner or outer envelope?  It sounds kind of pretty to me, but I’ve never seen it done before.  Any suggestions? Thanks, Sandy

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My daughter would like to use sealing wax (gold) on her invitation envelopes.  Has anyone here ever done it?  Does it seem like a good idea? If so, would you use it on the inner or outer envelope?  It sounds kind of pretty to me, but I’ve never seen it done before.  Any suggestions? Thanks, Sandy

The guy at the post office told me that they really frown on sealing wax on outer envelopes. When they get run through the stamping machine (which is hot) the wax melts off and gets all over the machinery.  In fact, he also told me that when they see envelopes with sealing wax they usually either just send them back to the author or put them in a dead letter file. I think they even have a policy somewhere about sealing wax. If you wanted to use them on the inner envelope, i’m sure that’s fine, but it may add a little extra weight to the envelope, thus making postage more expensive. you can usually buy sticks of sealing wax, and stamps at a really good stationary store. Jenna

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: The guy at the post office told me that they really frown on sealing wax : on outer envelopes. When they get run through the stamping machine (which : is hot) the wax melts off and gets all over the machinery.  In fact, he : also told me that when they see envelopes with sealing wax they usually : either just send them back to the author or put them in a dead letter : file. I think they even have a policy somewhere about sealing wax. I guess a way to get around this is to find a post office that hand stamps the mail- yes, this may sound unusual and somewhat inefficient in our day and age but here in Philadelphia the old Benjamin Franklin post office does this with no extra charge if the number of invitations is under 50. After 50, they charge an extra .05 cents per envelope. The stamp they put on is beautiful (it looks somewhat antiquated and has BF’s "signature" on it) especially if you use love stamps and have the addresses calligraphied. If you can find something like this in   your area- you might have to call around- it would be both convenient for the wax seals and a beautiful addition to them. I hope this helps. Marybeth

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: My daughter would like to use sealing wax (gold) on her invitation : envelopes.  Has anyone here ever done it?  Does it seem like a good idea? : If so, would you use it on the inner or outer envelope?  It sounds kind of : pretty to me, but I’ve never seen it done before.  Any suggestions? : Thanks, Sandy I’ve heard of it, and I think it’s neat.  Often wax seals won’t get through the post office machinery if they’re on the outside. I recommend mailing one to yourself as a test. Jeanne — <^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^<^ <^ Jeanne Petrangelo, graduated EE| "EE’s are intelligent, really.  They’re just Worcester Polytechnic Institute|                             CS department, WPI <_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_<_ <_

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I have sent tons of letters with sealing wax before. After a while, it occured to me to ask if the seal arrived with the letter; the response I often got was, "What seal?" Either it melts off, as mentioned before, but more likely is that it cracks and falls off, as the dried wax is very brittle. Even if you seal the inner envelope, the recipient will likely get an envelope full of little crumbled pieces of wax. Send one to yourself (just a regular envelope, no need to waste an invitation), write "HAND CANCEL" on the outside of the envelope,  and see if the wax is still there on the outside or if it crumbles on the inside. BTW, we are sealing our programs with sealing wax since it wasn’t feasible to do it on the invitations. Megan (& Kevin)-12/7/96

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If you wanted to use them on the inner envelope, i’m sure that’s fine, but it may add a little extra weight to the envelope, thus making postage more expensive.

Although I do remember at least one person on this newsgroup mentioning how the sealing wax on her inner envelopes did not survive the mailing process and the invitation arrived with crumbled wax in the envelope. | Jeanne  Hinds                 | "Etiquette, after all, is the       | |                               | over the chaos of instinct."        | |                               |   – Judith Martin                   |

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My daughter would like to use sealing wax (gold) on her invitation envelopes.  Has anyone here ever done it?  Does it seem like a good idea? If so, would you use it on the inner or outer envelope?  It sounds kind of pretty to me, but I’ve never seen it done before.  Any suggestions? Thanks, Sandy

We just mailed our invites and I sealed some of the local-delivered ones and they arrived mostly with the wax chipped off pretty badly. You can get nice stick-on gold initial seals at most stationery shops. That might be an alternative for your daughter. Best wishes! Julia and David 4-20-96

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Dose she has the same color of dress and style or dose she have a similar to the BM dress and syle and color since they are going to be different from my dress all toghter!!                LeAnne:~ The Legendary One, creator of Fine Literature and sappy commercial drival that pays the rent! Even Shakespere had to do something to eat.

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Absolutely not! Flower girl dresses should be appropriate to your color scheme but since flower girls are often that — girls— their dresses should be appropriate to their age.  It is not uncommon for flowergirls to wear white, however, I personally like the idea that the Bride is the only one who wears white the day of the wedding, it is afterall her day. (I am rather touched at the idea of the Groom wearing white also, but that’s a whole other kettle of fish.)     — Arianna                                                                                 Bridal Consultant Extraordinaire           available for consultation           c/o Laurenn’s e-mail address

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the idea of a flower girl is to represent the bride as a little girl therefore the flower girl will wear a white dress similar to the brides

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 As far as sealing wax goes and the mail service – here is what i have been told and dealt with.  Sealing was is placed on the outer envelope.   It will chip off is it goes through the cancellation machines at the post office.  They will need to be hand cancelled.  the only problem with hand cancelling is that some post offices aren’t thrilled about that – so if you have a large number of them to be hand cancelled, you should bring them to the post office a bunch at a time.     I work in a rubber stamp store in Pittsburgh, and have spent the past year helping brides with invitations and all the things involved with that.  Hope the information helps. Cathie

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        I just found out that my fiancee’s parents are planning on buying us our wedding bands while they are in Italy.  They like the Italian Gold that there rings are made of and want the same for us.  The only problem is that I would very much like to get a "traditional" Claddagh (Heart and Crown) Wedding band from Ireland.  Should I just accept there gift or tell them that I have my own plans for our wedding bands?  Thanks in advance. Tom Wilson

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My daughter would like to use sealing wax (gold) on her invitation envelopes.  Has anyone here ever done it?  Does it seem like a good idea? If so, would you use it on the inner or outer envelope?  It sounds kind of pretty to me, but I’ve never seen it done before.  Any suggestions? Thanks, Sandy

I think it sounds really pretty.  The only problems I can see are:  1.   wax seals take a while.  I always found that it took an extra 10 minutes or so per letter.  That’s no big deal if you’re talking 5, but if thats 125 invitations, that’s a big chunk of time. 2.  Also, they often don’t look very nice after they get through the mail.  The postal machines crack & break the wax and pieces of it chip off. I thought about it for mine, and decided against it.  YMMV, of course. Joanne (& James) May 26, 1996 — How many brewers does it take to change a light bulb?  One third less than a regular bulb…

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        I just found out that my fiancee’s parents are planning on buying us our wedding bands while they are in Italy.  They like the Italian Gold that there rings are made of and want the same for us.  The only problem is that I would very much like to get a "traditional" Claddagh (Heart and Crown) Wedding band from Ireland.  Should I just accept there gift or tell them that I have my own plans for our wedding bands?  Thanks in advance. Tom Wilson

Dear Tom: You should definitely tell your fiancee’s parents about your plans. Afterall, they are YOUR wedding bands that you are going to wear for the rest of your lives. I don’t think that her parents will be upset, if you explain that you’ve had your heart set on a certin type of ring for years, etc. Ask if they can find Claddagh rings in Italy, and if they can’t, see if they would be willing to purchase a different sort of gift for you. Laurel

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        I have a question as well…         My engagement ring is shaped rather strangely…it has a "wave" around the marquise stone. I would like to have matching wedding bands, either the claddaghs or another Celtic design…but they will not fit with my engagement ring. Should I get another ring??? Should I just wear the wedding band alone after the wedding?? How does this work??? pam

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My daughter would like to use sealing wax (gold) on her invitation envelopes.  Has anyone here ever done it?  Does it seem like a good idea? If so, would you use it on the inner or outer envelope?  It sounds kind of pretty to me, but I’ve never seen it done before.  Any suggestions? Thanks, Sandy I think it sounds really pretty.  The only problems I can see are:  1.   wax seals take a while.  I always found that it took an extra 10 minutes or so per letter.  That’s no big deal if you’re talking 5, but if thats 125 invitations, that’s a big chunk of time. 2.  Also, they often don’t look very nice after they get through the mail.  The postal machines crack & break the wax and pieces of it chip off. I thought about it for mine, and decided against it.  YMMV, of course. Joanne (& James) May 26, 1996

Yes, wax seals are a nice touch, but not only do you run the chance of getting the seal chipped by the postal machines, you also run the risk of them getting stuck in the machines as well. That could possibly mean some undelivered invitations… Kim (06/15/96)

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My flower girl wore a floral print dress which co-ordinated with the color of the BM dresses.  I have seen weddings with older girls, who dress like the BMs almost exactly, or she can look like the bride in white.  One thing to keep in mind is that most flower girl dresses are expensive! Based on the financial situation of her parents, you may have to get creative.

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